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Oh noes, people are selling drugz on the interweb!

"Recently, however, Eric posted an ad on craigslist indicating he was willing to trade marijuana for sexual favors from women or money from men. Men who offered up a woman for sex would get a discount.

"It's not prostitution," he said, noting he had completed a few transactions in response to the ad. "It's like a date, just weed instead of dinner."

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meico
Aug. 3rd, 2006 06:58 pm (UTC)
Urgh! (just puked a little into my mouth)

Hmm, the quotes above sicken me, but it's really the total sexism, exploitation, and idea that a dinner date is just a bribe for sex that I have problems with. Not so much the drugs and prostitution part...

I only have as much of a problem with people buying/ using marijuana as I do with alcohol and I have very little problems with prostitution (under completely voluntary, safe, clean, and extremely well regulated conditions).
webcowgirl
Aug. 3rd, 2006 07:01 pm (UTC)
Yeah, he really sounds like a piece of work.
meico
Aug. 4th, 2006 12:09 am (UTC)
Yeah, he's not even an honest sleazebag. If he was at least honest about the fact that it is indeed prostitution there might be some midgion of hope for him. As it is there isn't. :(
ms_vermilion
Aug. 3rd, 2006 07:44 pm (UTC)
But dating as it's generally done is just an exchange of resources: one person pays, the other person puts out (or pretends that they have no obligation to provide the other person with anything). This is not how it should be, but until people recognize it as the act of commerce that it is it's unlikely to change.
webcowgirl
Aug. 3rd, 2006 08:39 pm (UTC)
Hmm, my dating strategy was: people get together for a mutual exchange of pleasure, whether of talking or eating or other things. And I've always been very equitable in terms of paying when there's been money involved. Frequently, expenses are mutual/shared/whatever, though I lean toward "karmic debt exchange with loose accounting rules." I'm lucky to have squeaked out of the whole paradigm long ago.
ms_vermilion
Aug. 3rd, 2006 08:54 pm (UTC)
Then you have been doing an admirable job of subverting the traditional way that dating tends to go and you understand the balance of power/resources inherrent in the system. It's too bad more people don't view it the way you do.

I tend to avoid any sort of karmic debt incurrence myself by always holding the upper hand as far as contribution of money, etc. I think I've probably also carefully avoided doing that thing called "dating" in the first place. I just spend time with people and we do what we want.

I'd like to find the time to write that book that explains this strategy of self-reliance and retention of power to teenage girls . . .
webcowgirl
Aug. 3rd, 2006 08:59 pm (UTC)
power
Me, I had my mom show me what happens when you entirely rely on someone else to take care of you and yours, and what that does to your ability to control your life. I have wound up with trust and control issues that are occasionally difficult to manage, and I gave up on studying theater or art in favor of something that would make me financially independent, but I don't think it was such a bad thing overall.
ms_vermilion
Aug. 3rd, 2006 10:39 pm (UTC)
Re: power
[I removed my snarky comment that didn't feel discretionary enough.]

Financial security can involve other people, I think, as long as the power and contributions are in balance. And this does not necessarily mean x$ and x$ - It can be more complex than that.

Yeah, I was raised with a fierce sense of independence myself and have never relied on anyone else to live. I finished my degree in music, but simultaneously pursued my professional career outside of academia and the art world and always assumed that what I loved wouldn't pay the bills. That doesn't seem like such a bad thing, really.
webcowgirl
Aug. 3rd, 2006 10:50 pm (UTC)
Re: power
Did like your original comment but approve of your discretion. Hope to see you on Saturday. Life is too short to not spend more time with people like you ... such as, for example, you. :-)
ms_vermilion
Aug. 3rd, 2006 11:08 pm (UTC)
Re: power
I will be there.
meico
Aug. 4th, 2006 12:33 am (UTC)
Concurred. I think were on the same page even though you post sounds like it's dissagreeing with me.

I think you are very right that wihout pointing out why the way dating is generally done is bad it is unlikely to change.
ms_vermilion
Aug. 4th, 2006 12:46 am (UTC)
Yes, I didn't feel that I was disagreeing with you. The whole issue can be frustrating because the traditional rules regarding dating and relationships seem more entrenched than ever.
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