Then the counsellor did an exercise where he acted as if he were speaking to my mother, asking her why she wasn't being supportive of me in school, why she wasn't trying to be a mom to me, finally confronting her about just doing it because of George ... and I answered like my mother. "You think she's fine but you don't live with her and you don't have to put up with her crap every day. I work hard to make sure there's food on the table and a roof over her head." Etc. Finally I interrupted him and said that basically there was no talking sense to my mother at the time, and God knows I'd tried, so there wasn't going to be any movement in her position just because someone else was telling her off!
So I think the conclusion we reached is that I'm really sensitive to being around hostile people and I need to "respect the little cowgirl" and not put myself in situations where I'm likely to be dealing with people who feel that way about me. This is probably going to mean I avoid any parties featuring the people who've publicly spoken out against me ... all of whom have never actually had me do anything to them personally but just, I don't know, feel empowered somehow to treat me like shit. I feel really bad and weak that they've won the war and chased me out of social gatherings of my friends here, but I guess I just have to respect my limits and think a little harder about just how much I can handle rather than thinking that just because I'm having a good day or a good week doesn't mean I'm not just going to crumple again. And I don't want to be the kind of person who says, "If X or Y is at your party I'm not going to go," but, well, I'm afraid that I'd rather not spend the night crying at my house and feeling like a loser. I'll probably lie to people about why I'm not going or say I'm going to and then make alternate plans ... but mostly I need to make sure I'm not exposing myself to these kinds of situations. It's much better for my head.
At any rate, my current plan is to stick to just the next two meetings with the counsellor and call myself done, even though this session was particularly useful.