August 13th, 2007


Dance (Chris Wheeldon) and Proust

I read an article in the NY Times today about Chris Wheeldon's ballet company, Morphoses. The article included a picture of Batkhurel Bold and Carla Korbes dancing. I swoon. I must see them again - I miss my PNB dancers! The good news is that they will be here in September, or at least the company will be. Unfortunately the dates they might be performing (in Program 1 at Sadler's Wells) is during scarlettina's trip, but perhaps some dance can be accomodated amongst the plays and such. I'll be seeing some choreography by him tomorrow at the Bolshoi (article about it here) but I am really dying to see my old familiar dancer faces again.

Proust has been held up by the excitment with the Dresden novels - lots of wizard on necromancer/zombie action there! So I'm only at page 398, "in which our hero is turned down for a date." He comes off so gross and disgusting at times I can't help but feel good about his distress at being stood up. I've also recieved a package from the grandparents in law with the late arriving books and a CD, so I'm now listening to Jordi Savall sawing away at the works of Sante Colombe and Marin Marais. Ahh, heaven.
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Marriage, sex, relationships - good reading online

An article in the New York Times says it's mathematically impossible for the disparity in survey results between women and men on the topic of number of sexual partners.

Meanwhile, Carolyn Hax is continuing to support my belief that she's the "one true voice" of advice columnists, who really gets people's secret little behaviors. Are your parents picking on your partner? "When your mother berates your wife for anything, you make it clear to your mom that she's to back off. Adults don't scold adults." Do you feel like you're always in the wrong? Maybe your partner doubts her own worth, or maybe you want someone you won't get too attached to, or you don't expect to be valued.

These arguments all play out in a NY Times article about saving marriages (by Laurie Abraham), which reads well for any long term relationship. What do you have invested? What do you still get out of a relationship after decades? "Marriage typically meets our sharply felt needs for security and predictability ... but in those relationships that last well, people take the leap of believing that they actually don’t know exactly who the other person is or what he or she is capable of — the absolute knowingness is a fantasy, anyway — and that there is new terrain to be discovered." Lots of good stuff in there, especially for the counsellor friends on my list, and well worth reading, even if it hit me a bit in the emotional solar plexus as lunch time reading.