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That was advice?

So, the doctor today said I should 1) stop drinking sugary drinks (THANKS I DON'T NOT EVEN IN MY TEA NO REALLY) and 2) take up meditation. Item one was not related to my urticaria at all. Item two was the only solid advice she could give me re: stress reduction. Otherwise, her general advice was, "Well, maybe this will all settle down in another three months or so. And you should really work on reducing the stress in your life." (And we talked about the antihistime and swelling medicine I was taking - fenofexadine and cimetidine - and she didn't really have anything to say about it, either.)

I really don't know what to do about reducing stress. But, aside from getting exercise, just what can I do to try to reduce the amount of stress in my life? (In some ways, there's probably not much point in posting about it here, because 4 out of 5 posts get no responses anyway, so maybe I should ask on Facebook.)

What I really want to do is spend more time around supportive people so I feel safe and less isolated and I can drop my guard more. I did that tonight, and of course every evening with my housemate is pretty good. :-) And things do seem to have calmed down a bit. But really, I must, must, must dial down the stress even more. Having work give me shit about going to the doctor does NOT help, though. Here's hoping that doesn't happen ever again.



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Apr. 17th, 2013 10:10 pm (UTC)
Still here and wishing good things for you.

You got confirmation from the doctor that you're doing the right things now it's just a matter of letting the your system stabilize and then reduce to normal. I want this to be over for you but I think that you're body still has a backlog of stress to process.
Apr. 18th, 2013 11:24 am (UTC)
Thank you, patience is one of the hardest lessons.

And thanks for continuing to be engaged. It seems mighty quiet here a lot of the time.
Apr. 17th, 2013 10:24 pm (UTC)
The only suggestion i have about reducing stress is to stop trying to do so many things, but you seem to like doing a lot of things.
Apr. 18th, 2013 11:28 am (UTC)
Doing stuff helps me not stress out, because it keeps my mind busy thinking about other things, and sometimes it makes me really happy.

Maybe you could recommend three books so good I can't put them down? That helps me reduce my stress, too.
Apr. 21st, 2013 12:25 am (UTC)
I don't have any books that I'd classify as "can't put down" recently. I did like Joan Slonczewski's A Door Into Ocean and Kameron Hurley's God's War. The latter is not a happy book though.
Apr. 18th, 2013 12:48 am (UTC)
Also still here and, as darkmane said, wishing good things for you.

You asked for ideas for stress reducers. Sleep is number one on my list (followed by small regular meals). Any time I run too hard for too long on too little sleep, I crash. I've learned to cut my commitments back and try to get at minimum seven hours of rest.

Other ones that work for me: sack lunch (or dinner) in a park. Pilates (thought I think you are already doing this). Yoga. Walks. And, er, meditation — nothing formal, more like 10 minutes or more of clearing my mind and letting the chatter stop.
Apr. 18th, 2013 05:52 am (UTC)
Things that I'm always happier after having done, no matter how little I wanted to do them before I went (aka stress reduction):
Going to the gym
Meditation (basically silent sitting and breathing for me)
Food, sleep, backrubs. Meet the needs of your body.
Sharing nice tea with friends
Seeing natural beauty

Lots of sympathy and best wishes!
Apr. 18th, 2013 07:50 am (UTC)
I was thinking I should schedule massages every week just for the mental boost. And, oddly, pedicures again .... they make me feel really spoiled.
Apr. 18th, 2013 03:16 pm (UTC)
Sleep, glorious sleep
Sleep has been really critical for me and I've been working on trying to manage it for about two years now - I just have so much stuff running through my brain I can't fall asleep, and then many nights (the bad ones) I wake up two hours early, my brain kicks in, and then I can't get back to sleep. I give myself all of the time I need to sleep but my body (and brain) just don't want to cooperate. (Nice though that my current employer has more flexible work hours - this means I will go for an extra hour if it's been a really bad night.)

I'm poor at meditation, my mind just doesn't shut off.

Now that it's finally got above freezing, I may look at having my lunch outside again. Speaking of which, have you read Rivers of London (US title Midnight Riot)? It's partially set in a churchyard very close to where I work, one of my favorite places to eat lunch when the weather is good.
Apr. 18th, 2013 09:04 pm (UTC)
Re: Sleep, glorious sleep
I've read only the first book of the series but I really liked it.
Apr. 18th, 2013 08:58 am (UTC)
I think "activities" like pilates and dancing and etc are good...the things which can induce "flow" and get the focus away from the squirrels. For you I think it's writing, too, and maybe more painting? Maybe not oils because of the setup time - unless you want to commit to having a space to leave things set up for a while.

But non-activity stuff, like learning to just take 5 minutes to specifically *not* think, seems like would be useful, too. How to stop the stress *in the moment* so you respond differently it passes more quickly? Will keep thinking on ideas for that.
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Apr. 18th, 2013 03:27 pm (UTC)
Games are good. Maybe I should pick up my cross-stitch again, but it's been getting hard for me to see it.

Thank you for trying to help me figure this out.
Apr. 18th, 2013 03:28 pm (UTC)
Well, I would like to do painting again ... but I can only do it for an hour before I start getting restless.
Apr. 27th, 2013 10:57 pm (UTC)
Hello mate. Good to see you the other day.

I'm doing a course this weekend with these guys. It is a massive life shift, and I wondered if you might be looking for something like this. It is Not Remotely Spiritual. It is transforming, though.

There are centres in Seattle and London, and there are free introductions.

Apr. 28th, 2013 04:53 am (UTC)
Fascinating that you're doing this as I've been referred to them before (by a friend in Seattle). I think I'm actually pretty well sorted in terms of what they're trying to accomplish, but also it's not really suited to my approach to life or how I see the world. But thank you, I know you're looking out for me!
Apr. 29th, 2013 10:04 am (UTC)
Yeah it was totally amazing.

I dare you to try it-you would have the possibility of a whole new way of being at work and in relationships, and if you are thinking of changing jobs now would be the perfect time. I'd love to see you have that possibility. :)
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